Sunday, 7 October 2007

Fall house decorating in the USA

In the last week I have noticed that a number of my fellow bloggers in the USA are decorating the outside of their houses for the Fall season.
I am intrigued to know why, as although I have spent much time in the States, I have not come across this before.
Is it traditional or is it a new thing or is it geographical?
One of the reasons I ask is because over the years it has become obvious that so much of what begins in America eventually comes to the UK. Good and bad!
A decade ago one would never have seen houses here covered in lights at Christmas. This seems to have coincided with movies like Home Alone and various Christmas films.
It has got to the point now where it has become very competitive and some people take months getting their display ready.
The media have even got involved with many homes being shown in the papers and on TV.
A more recent phenomena is 'trick and treat' and some people are decorating their homes for Halloween.
The last couple of years the grocery stores have begun to sell witches outfits for children.
What many people do not seem to realise is that Haloween is a Pagan festival and steeped in the Occult.
So I am interested to know more about Fall decorating, maybe it comes from Harvest Festival. Do enlighten me please.

Saturday, 6 October 2007

Snowshill Village, Cotswolds Pt 5

Another Cotswold village, quite a small one this time
However one of the main attractions there is Snowshill Manor
I will cover this in a separate post
Snowshill was not very far from where we were staying
While there we visited Snowshill Lavender Farm
At this time of year it was closed but we decided to go and have a look anyhow
A very kind gardener there who was painting one of the buildings opened up for us and I was able to buy 5 lavender plants to add to my collection
During the early Summer these Lavender farms are a sight to behold and they smell good too
Of course when I got home my dilemma was, where am I going to plant another 5 lavenders? Needless to say, I managed!












Seconds before I took this picture a beautiful open topped Vintage care drove past
I do wish I'd had my camera ready as it would have made a good picture




Thursday, 4 October 2007

MY STORY Chapter 5 - A Life on the Ocean Pt 1 -Crossing the Atlantic

I have been so encouraged by your comments that I am endeavouring to get on with this story a little more quickly.
Yes this is me and I am not pretending




When I look back on this chapter of my life, I realise what a privilege it was. How many 21 year olds get to sail the ocean on a fairly small ship and experience the delights and terrors of the seas and the excitement of each new port for such a prolonged period. I was at sea for almost a year.

As I mentioned in the last chapter, Alan came home from an interview on a Monday evening and said, “We are sailing on Saturday!” Having spent 8 years on large oil tankers with British Petroleum, he took this job as Chief Engineer on a small cargo ship in order to get more experience, and how small it was.

That week was very hectic as I had to arrange passport, visa, jabs etc. and think about what I might need for the next year leading a very different life to what I was used to. As we were going to be spending time in America I had to travel to my home town in Liverpool where there was an American Embassy. In those days, and yes this is true, one had to salute the American flag before being given a visa.

So with all the preparations made and all the goodbye’s said, we arrived at the ship, berthed in Middlesbrough on the East Coast on Saturday morning armed with bags of wool, knitting patterns, embroidery, Scrabble etc. We did not need books, the ship had a library and that is where I got my first taste of James Bond.

The first rumour that went around the sailors and deckhands quarters was that the Chief was into knitting big time. The second was that the Chief had his daughter with him. At one point early in the voyage our cabin boy asked if he could have a date with the Chief’s daughter! These guys were not used to having such a young Engineer Officer. Alan was only 28 at the time and considered very young to be in that position. I was the only female on board. I remember the ship gently swaying at the quayside and wondering how I would take to the motion.

We duly set sail down the river and began sailing North past the Scottish coastline. This confused me as I had assumed we would be sailing south and through the English Channel. I learned that going ‘north about’ was the shortest route, the earth being the shape that it is, but also the harshest weather would be experienced this way. We were on our way to Nova Scotia, the ship being chartered by a Canadian company, and we would be spending our time sailing up and down the Eastern seaboard of the American, Canadian and Mexican coasts, stopping off at many ports on the way. As it happened, in the North Atlantic, we experienced the worst weather Alan had ever encountered in his previous 8 years at sea.

At one point we just had to ‘hove too’ for 3 days. This means forsaking our planned course and turning into the wind and going virtually where the ocean took us. I was never actually seasick but there were times when eating wasn’t easy and I dosed myself up with Sea Legs. The other Officers were amazed when I would appear each day. They were expecting me to be holed up in our bunk. During this Atlantic crossing there were 3 separate times when we were in bed at night when one of the firemen came to tell Alan that there was a fire in the engine room. Can you imagine my terror when Alan leapt out of bed and ran post haste to the engine room? Each time it was dealt with satisfactorily but I had no way of knowing until Alan returned.

The furniture in our cabin was hooked to the bulkheads (walls) and in the worst of the weather would just fly out and slide and crash between one bulkhead and another. To look out of a porthole could be very disorientating as one minute I would see sky and the next the rolling sea as the ship rolled and pitched its way through the waves. When in our bunk one could not relax, in these times as it was just a matter of wedging oneself in. One memory that has always stayed in my mind is of listening to a particular song on the radio. It began… Standing on the corner watching all the girls go by….. To this day if I close my eyes and think of that song I can almost be transported back to the sights and sounds of the day.

So in this atmosphere I gradually settled down to a routine sea life. We had quarters that consisted of a day cabin furnished with 2 sofas and 2 armchairs, plus a desk and a bedroom with one double bunk, wardrobe and wash basin. I had to share a shower and toilet with 4 other engineers. There was no lock on the bathroom door so Alan had to stand outside. This was a very basic ship although I don’t think Ellen McArthur would have thought so! We had a cabin boy to tidy and clean the cabin for us but I decided I wanted to do that myself, after all I had all the time in the world. Alan had very little to do also as apart from filling in the daily log, he was only there to deal with emergencies and see that the other engineers and engine room workers did their job and of course ‘carry the can’ if any problems arose. For the uninitiated there are 2 departments on a ship. The Captain and his staff of various officers, galley staff and deck hands and the Chief Engineer and his engineering department.

On a daily basis while at sea I would go to the galley (dining room) at the other end of the ship, quite a feat on the open deck in bad weather, especially negotiating the slippery ladders. We are not talking about a liner here, just a cargo ship with an empty hold that could toss like a cork on the ocean. I would eat breakfast, lunch and dinner there and in between amuse myself knitting, embroidering, reading, playing patience, listening to the radio and playing Scrabble with Alan. I would also visit the bridge, and yes, I did get to steer once! I liked to just watch the sea and sky go by and I would check our progress in the chart room. Later on in the good weather I would lie on deck and sunbathe. Sailors and deckhands (I am not talking about ships officers) could be quite superstitious in those days and one of their beliefs was that a woman on the bridge brought bad luck. Hence I was blamed for the bad weather. After lunch the whole ship’s company who were not on duty (including me) would have a siesta from 1.30 – 3.0 pm when we would be woken by our cabin boy with tea and cakes.

I’ve digressed a little here, so back to our Atlantic crossing. Apart from the weather and fires there were other episodes of note during this time. One being, I was asked by a sailor if I would shorten his new jeans. I duly turned them up and cut the bottom off at the top of the turned up bit instead of on the crease line. I am not a sewer! A very red faced Barbara had to return them about 5 inches too short! Would not have mattered today, in fact might have been fashionable, but certainly not then.

Another time a sailor asked me if I would cut his hair. I had never cut hair in my life. I made it so uneven through lack of experience and rough seas that I had to end up doing what was then known as a “crew” cut – well after all he was part of the crew. These days a razor set at number 2 would probably do the trick.

Another more unpleasant episode – I would wash my clothes by hand and hang them to dry on the deck outside our cabin. I began to realise that I had less underwear than I started out with. After the Captain had arranged a thorough search of the ship, my missing clothes were found shredded in the bilges at the bottom of the boat. It turned out that our cabin boy had stolen then and had been wearing them. Life at sea, especially for women, was certainly not without its trials.

It took 21 days to cross the Atlantic, yes that's 3 weeks, and in the next chapter we will be visiting Nova Scotia and that certainly had many life experiences to offer.

Wednesday, 3 October 2007

The Fleece Inn, Bretforton, Cotswolds Pt 4

This is the lovely Fleece Inn at Bretforton
It was originally a house where it sheltered a farmer and his stock under the same roof
It became an Inn in the middle of the 1800's
I understand the food is excellent
It is now owned by The National Trust
The Annual Asparagus Festival is held there in May
It was closed when we visited in the early afternoon which was a pity as I would liked to have seen inside.








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An antique shop opposite
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What season are you?

I Belong in Fall

Intelligent, introspective, and quite expressive at times...
You appreciate the changes in color, climate, and mood that fall brings
Whether you're carving wacky pumpkins or taking long drives, autumn is a favorite time of year for you

What Season Are You?
Let me know if you have time.

Monday, 1 October 2007

MY STORY - Chapter 4 - I meet my Husband

19th December 1959

The Village of Lustleigh, on the edge of Dartmoor in Devon,

where we spent our honeymoon



It was in the situation I found myself in at the end of the last chapter that I met my husband, Alan. I had been in a relationship for the previous 3 years that was becoming very painful for me. In those days, being in a relationship, meant having a steady boyfriend. With the wisdom of today, looking back I can see that I was repeating the familiar pattern of what I am sure would have become a destructive relationship.

I first met Alan at his Mother’s house. I was having a holiday at my Aunt and Uncle’s home. My Aunt was married to Alan’s Mother’s brother, so I was actually visiting my Aunt’s sister-in-law when I met Alan for the first time. I was 20 and he was 27. I had not met him previously as he had always been away when I had visited and he had been nothing more than a picture on the side board. He was in the Merchant Navy, an engineer with British Petroleum, and had been home on study leave for the previous nine months.

On that particular Saturday afternoon he and a friend were busy working on Alan’s car and he was dressed in a boiler suit and somewhat covered in engine oil. He had returned to the house for tea, to which his Mother had already invited me, so cleaned up enough to be able to sit at the table with us. Unknown to me he had a wicked sense of humour and joked about his rather prim and proper school teacher Mother liking her Gin. Wanting to fit in I immediately said, “You can be my friend, I love my Gin too!” Apparently in the ensuing silence Alan had become endeared with my long blond hair and my easy rapport with his Mother.

After tea, before going out again to finish the job on his car, he asked if I would still be there when he got back. I had originally only visited for the afternoon but obviously there was some connection going on here because I said yes. He returned about 8.0 pm and rushed upstairs. A little time later he appeared smartly dressed in a brown suit. Hard to believe now, but in those days this was the manner of dress when going out. He asked if I would like to see the ‘the bright lights of Gateshead’. I agreed and these bright lights turned out to be the local coffee cellar, yes, that’s right, but I am talking about the late 50’s. Afterwards he walked me home and unknown to me at the time my Aunt was looking out of the window in horror. As soon as I entered the house she immediately said I was to have nothing to do with Alan as he did not have a good reputation (in her eyes) as he was only interested in drinking, women and cars. I’m not sure what it was that she wanted for me, but it was not this.

Before parting Alan asked if he could see me the next morning for a walk in the park. I agreed and when lying awake in bed that night I just knew that he was going to ask me to marry him. He was not a Christian which was a concern to me even though there was not much evidence of my faith in my life at that time. However, against all appearances I knew that God would keep His word and that I could not escape from Him and that I would have to recommit my life to Him. I believed that if God could do that for me, then He could do it for Alan too, so I settled this issue in my mind. We had our walk in the park and after returning me to my Aunt’s house Alan asked if we could meet again in the afternoon. This we did and I ended up staying for tea at his Mother’s house again. After tea his parents went out to visit with other relatives, which apparently was their regular way of spending a Sunday evening. Alan declined the offer to accompany them and instead we sat and played records on the gramophone in their front room. Sure enough during that time Alan asked me if I would marry him approximately 24 hours after we had first met. I agreed to marry Alan with a certain faith that he would become a Christian. However, it did not happen as quickly as I had thought it would and I had to believe and pray for his salvation for 15 years before it became a reality. For myself, I kept putting off re-dedicating my life to Christ as I thought I was too sinful and not capable of maintaining a Christian life. In those days I thought I had to get my life together first in order to be acceptable to God again. I did not understand Grace and thought it was down to my effort.

So, having agreed to marry Alan he took me to his Aunt’s house where his parents were visiting. He announced our engagement wherein his Mother said, “Oh! Alan, stop it, not another one of your jokes.” When he said he was serious, we were met with silence and disbelief until his Aunt ran upstairs and returned with a set of pillowcases and said she wanted to be the first to congratulate us. Relief!! Our immediate families were not so excited though. Alan’s Mother said that I was far too young to marry her son and she did not like what she had heard about my Father.

As Alan had been on study leave for some months we decided that if we were going to get married he needed to take a temporary job and earn some money. He took a job on a small ship (known as a coaster), sailing around the UK coast. We decided that the only way we would see each other was if I went and stayed at his parent’s home. We needed to see each other because remember, we had only just met. We therefore travelled to Liverpool to introduce Alan to my parents and tell them what we had decided. My Father’s reaction was to say “Once you step out of this front door, don’t ever come back”. We did decide to go ahead with our plans and Alan took a very distressed new fiancée back to his parent’s house. I found a job as a secretary to the Chief Engineer of Marconi Marine and, against all the odds; we were married 4 months later. That was 48 years ago and we have since come through all the ups and downs, excitement and trauma together.

After marrying, Alan decided he needed to go back to Marine College to take his Chief Engineer’s ticket so I continued to work to support us while we stayed at his parent’s house. About 10 weeks later when Alan completed his qualifications, he came home one Monday evening and said that he had a job as a Chief Engineer on board a cargo ship. He also said that I would be going with him and we would be leaving for Canada the following Saturday. Chief Engineers and Captains were always able to take their wives with them if they wished.

The next few chapters in my story will cover this very interesting and eventful time, so stay tuned…………………..

Sunday, 30 September 2007

The Season has finished and the Rain is coming

Wednesday we drove down to Leigh-on-Sea for the day
Based ourselves at our friends home as they were away again
Once I had had my charity/thrift shop fix we spent the rest of the day walking
I like the atmosphere at this time of year
Everything seems deserted and ready for the Winter sleep
In the afternoon we walked further along the Thames Estuary
The weather was a little stormy which gave me the opportunity to take some
photos of very interesting skies. I just love skies and
Wednesdays skies did not disappoint me.
We also managed to walk in between the showers so did not get wet.
So come with me and enjoy the peace and tranquility


This is an old tram used as extra storage space in the gift shop
My husband in the background practicing his German on some German tourists
He was very pleased that they thought he was German





























All those changing skies were snapped within the space of 20 minutes